Don’t let narcissistic behavior control your life,lets discover how you can Outsmart and Disarm Narcissists just with the power of words.
Spot the Red Flags
It is easy to identify Narcissists when you know_ how they act like?
“A narcissist is someone who constantly seeks external validation,admiration,attention, and
control, while lacking emotional empathy and respect for others driven by deep seated
Insecurity and low self esteem”.
If you see these behaviours constantly admitted by some Individual,then there is a high
chance you have to tighten your seat belt and begin the journey of resilience and smartness
through the words you choose.
Remember,Narcissists may use tactics like turning the blame on you, gaslighting you, and
resorting to disrespectful behaviour.
What Medical Professionals say about Narcissist?
Read below
“Narcissist is someone who has self uncertainty that with a subconscious fear of not being
good enough,” says Alena Scigliano, licensed psychotherapist.
You’re arguing with a narcissist, being firm with your boundaries will help you stand your
ground.
You should also acknowledge their feelings because it may help soothe them.
But Remember, It’s a medical condition
Narcissism is a diagnosable condition. It’s called Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD),
and according to the research data around 5% of people have this disorder.
How To Tell if a Person Is Narcissistic?
Jaime Mahler, LMHC, is a licensed clinical psychotherapist and shares these common traits
seen among narcissists:
• Lack of Emotional Empathy
• Sense of Superiority/Privilege
• Transactional love
• Manipulative in relationships
• Fear of losing control over
people or situation.
• Lying Consistently
• Ommiting the Truth
• Seeking Dominance over
family members or colleagues.
• Gaslighting (telling someone
that they are experiencing
feeling isn’t happening/isn’t
happened)
• No regard of other
boundaries
• Lack of Self Accountability.
Before Moving forward you should know how “words” play great role in our lives?
Yes you guess right!
We will look at one of the most effective tool “Effective Communication”
Effective Communication
It is one of the greatest Defense against Narcissists.
As Narcissists are highly manipulative so dealing with them by strategic Communication can
help a lot.As Words are one of the most powerful tool that Human beings have been given by
God.Words can “make” or “break” a person,so use them wisely for strengthening your
position while confronting a Narcissist.
50 Powerful Phrases for Self Protection
Next time when you confront a Narcissist use any style of phrases given here that fit your
choice and situation.
1-Acknowledging Perspective by
saying..
1. I understand
2. So, what I hear you saying is…
3. Everything is ok
4. That makes sense but,
5. I’m following your thought process.
6. Thanks for letting me know your thoughts; I’ll consider them.
7. Thank you for sharing your opinion.
Benefits:
This style of phrase diffuses tension,decreases argument escalation and temporarily
neutralizes narcissistic defenses and will lead to constructive dialouges.
2-Boundary Setting
1.We can talk again when you can speak kindly.
2. I’m willing to work this out, but I am not willing to be insulted or yelled at.
3. I’d like to maintain a respectful working relationship.
4. I prioritize my own needs and well-being.
5.Respectful communication is non-negotiable.
6.I’m not willing to engage in discussions that involve [specific topic].
7.If you keep behaving like this,I’ll walk away.
Benefits:
It helps in. Establishes clear limits, Protects emotional well-being that will ultimately prevent
manipulation by Narcissits and their exploitation is disserted.
3-Being Assertive
1.I can’t control how you feel about me
2.Your anger is not my responsibility
3.You have a right to your opinion so do I.
4. I’m happy to consider your wishes and preferences, and I would like the same from you.
5. I just want you to know how I feel.
6. I know it is important to me but I’m not going to tell you why.
7. My actions are not tied to your opinions.
Benefits :
This style can help to counter Narcissistic control tactics,maintain self-respect also in
communicating needs clearly and reducing emotional reactivity.
4-Emotional Detachment
1. I have no right to control how you see me.
2. I’m not invested in this discussion.
3. My emotions aren’t tied to this outcome.
4. I’m focusing on my priorities.
5. Your feelings aren’t my responsibility
6. I’m not engaging in emotional debates.
7. I’ve set boundaries for my well-being.
Benefits:
This style of phrases reduces emotional supply to narcissist and will break emotional
manipulation cycle.Moreover, it maintains emotional stability by limiting narcissistic
influence.
5-Neutralizing Manipulation
1. Your perspective is interesting.
2. I’m not willing to talk about that.
3. I’ll consider your point.
4. We agree to disagree.
5. I’m focused on finding solutions
6. I don’t see myself that way
7. It’s unfortunate that you feel that way.
