It’s a simple, very loaded question one finds oneself answering all the time in social sitting: “How was your day?” While you’d think it’s a very straightforward question, your response can set relationships, create thoughtful conversations, and even give you insight into yourself.
Here’s a guide on how to respond thoughtfully and engagingly be it to a friend, colleague, or loved one. You can use these tips in real-life incidents.
Understanding The Question
Before diving into the responses, it’s good to know what lies behind the question, “How was your day?” The question may mean:
Small Talk: This type is used mostly in casual conversations to break the ice.
Genuine Interest: Someone who is asking this may be interested in your well-being.
It can be a way of deepening a relationship, perhaps by sharing personal experiences with the other party.
Be Honest but Selective
Example: “My day was pretty good! I finished a big project at work, which was a relief. How about yours?”
Tip: Balance honesty with discretion. It’s quite all right to share some about your day, but avoid overloading on the other person’s details if you’re not sure how receptive he will be.
Highlight Positives
Example: “I had a wonderful day! Lunch with an old friend was something spectacular. So, how about you?
Tip: Only highlight the positive to keep the conversation light and engaging. This helps you in keeping up with the happy and agreeable interactions.
You should now always rant about how your day went bad and how you had to face many problems, try to tell only the positives.
Share Something Interesting or Unique in the Moment
Example: “It’s been a busy day. I have just cooked a new dinner recipe and it turned out yummy. What’s interesting that happened to you today?”
Tip: Novelty and unique experiences increase the interactivity of the conversation and its chances of being memorable.
Express Emotion
Example: “Today was a little rough, but I got through it. How was your day?”
Tip: If you share your feelings, it may give them space to hold some empathy or deeper connection. Just be mindful of the context and how well you know the person.
Inquiry About the Other Person
Example: “It was a pretty normal day for me. But I’m curious how was yours? Did anything exciting happen?”
Tip: Showing interest in the other person’s day not only makes the conversation reciprocal but builds rapport and further shows that you value their experience.
