This can very often be a reach for empathy and understanding when somebody says, “It has been a long day.” Your reaction can play a very important role in improving your mood and providing the support required by that person.
Detailed below are responses one can offer with tips on being supportive.
Show Empathy
“I am so sorry to hear about this. It sounds like today wasn’t very nice to you, huh? If you feel comfortable, I am here and will listen if you feel like you need to talk.”
Why It Works: This response identifies with their feelings and opens up the possibility of them sharing, should they wish to do so.
It lets them know that you’re interested in their emotional state and are willing to provide a safe place for sharing if they desire.
Offer Support
“It seems like you could use a little rest. Is there anything I could do for you that would help you relax? Maybe I could bring over your favorite snack or help with some chores?”
Why It Works: By offering tangible support, this kind indicates that you are doing something about improving their condition. It conveys that you’ve recognized their pain and are working to improve it, however insignificantly.
Suggest a Relaxation Activity
“How about a cup of coffee or a little walk? The fresh air will do you good, and a change of scene may lighten your mood.”
Why It Works: This engages them in an activity that might involve them in something pleasurable and, therefore, can rest their minds on it. It may also lead to some positive social interaction, as it makes them reach out for company.
Share a Positive Thought
“I know today was rough, but remember, tomorrow is a whole new day! What do you say? Let’s plan something fun for this weekend to look forward to.”
Why It Works: This response helps shift their focus from the negativity of the day to the possibilities of tomorrow. It encourages a hopeful mindset and gives them something to look forward to.
Ask Open Ended Questions
“What made today feel so long for you? Sometimes talking about it helps.”
Why it works: Open-ended questions invite them to share as much of their experience and feelings as they wish.
This can be very cathartic and might further let you understand the situation more clearly, therefore enriching your support.
Listen Actively
When they start to express themselves, give them your full attention. Keep nodding, maintaining eye contact, and responding appropriately to display that you are listening, but do not interrupt them at all, for that may give them the feeling that you are not hearing them.
Be Present
Sometimes, it means just being there, whether in person or on the phone. You’ll sit together in silence at other times, and that, in and of itself, is comforting. Let your loved one know you are there for support and to help, even if they don’t feel like talking at all.
