Modern dating often means navigating encounters with “bread crumbing” individuals. Essentially, it is sending sporadic messages that are non-committal to a person to keep them interested but never intending to set a meaningful relationship.
Knowing how to handle the breadcrumber can be instrumental in emotional well-being and healthy boundaries.
What is Bread crumbing?
Bread crumbing is a sure-fire way to leave a person confused and unimportant. It is described as infrequent, shallow, and not committed communication.
People may breadcrumb for several reasons, either to keep the options open, boost the ego, or simply out of uncertainty about one’s feelings.
Being able to identify the patterns is the first step in dealing with them effectively.
1. Be Direct you
Once you have identified a bread you have to respond quickly and ask them for clarity. You have to tell them you cannot leave me hanging as a side option and I need clarity in this situation.
You have to ask him whether we have a future or not, if our relationship is just a time pass and we won’t have any future together then there is no benefit of this.
2. Set Boundaries
You can explain that you do not appreciate time passing or anyone who keeps you as a second option.
You can explain how you need to be prioritised and how need quicker replies and messages.
You can tell him that I have certain expectations from you and from this relationship if you do not meet those expectations then we can call off this relationship and end it.
3. Suggest Meeting Up
when you think a person is a breadcrumb then you must ask him to meet in person.
Usually when a person is not genuinely interested in you and you ask to meet him then he tries to change the topic or avoid meeting in public.
If a person is refusing meetings or trying to keep the whole relationship online then it can be a case of breadcrumb as he is just passing time with you and may not genuinely be interested in you.
4. Express Your Worth
You must explain how you are not just a time pass for anyone and how you have value. You can tell him and taunt him about how he is just wasting her time and how he is avoiding a real relationship.
You can tell him if he is not interested in having a real relationship and keeping it online could be because he is underconfident, this might hurt his ego and he may not breadcrumb you any more.
5. Politely Decline
Even after explaining and persuading him if he continues this behaviour then you must decline him.
You can tell him you do not appreciate this behaviour and you are not willing to continue this bread crumbing.
